@missy and everyone

I must have missed this one the first time round. Oh, the life of a gender neutral job title. 😀

Anyway, the use of ‘actor’ for females as well as males predates PC culture. There’s two reasons for it – one is simply that an actor plays both male and female roles. I’m an actor (f) who generally plays roles (f) – but I’ve…[Read more]

@missy

Some people prefer not to be defined by their relationship to others, but in their own right. Not a hard concept to grasp.

Actor, waiter and mayor (one who acts, one who waits-on and one who leads city government) are all gender neutral terms. They only became something else when people feel the need to point out that a woman’s primary…[Read more]

@Missy if you heard the word Mayor in our town you would not think of a man, but a brilliant dynamic woman who is the best mayor this town has ever had.

I have considered your point re’ opting for the male title but I think when it comes to position titles like “mayor” that is not “male” just non gender specific. I do think there is at times a…[Read more]

@blenkinsopthebrave it sounds wonderful and I am envious. Any excuse for people to congregate in a inclusive social atmosphere is great and dressing up is so much fun. It breaks down social barriers, something I observed back in my working days, though of course it is not for everyone. Oddly enough it was the more extroverted people who disliked…[Read more]

People choose what they are offended by.

@missy – if you choose to be offended by people referring to themselves as Ms or actress etc then absolutely that’s your choice.

If others choose to be offended by those things as they recognise them as demeaning women as being less than men and gay people as being less than straight people, then that’s…[Read more]

@missy So sorry to hear about your troubles. Best wishes from me too.

Regards

Janette

@missy So, what is the difference between an actor and an actress? If the only difference is the sex of the one doing the acting, then it strikes me as a silly distinction. I’m fine with calling them all actresses, as long as everyone gets the same designation. (Though, from a linguistic standpoint, words ending in -er or -or have a sensible…[Read more]

@missy Please don’t worry about thanking me. But (being horribly redundant), thank you for thinking of it. Being all over the place is very, very understandable in your circumstances. Blood clots in his lungs? Oh no, that’s serious. I’m sure you are going through unbearable stress right now.

Oh, and I apologize for my earlier typo. Heartbreaking…[Read more]

@missy Sorry to hear the bad news. Times like this are never easy. I hope you and your OH get all the help you can and you’re lucky to have three children to help you in this situation. We’re all here for you.

@missy  I think that when titles get changed like batsmenwomen to batters   and chairman to chairperson it is about inclusion. Including the female half of the planet is a good thing from my point of view as a member of that half and a Granny to 2 granddaughters. It is nice to be included. (says the person always picked last for the team.)

One o…[Read more]

@missy Such hearbreaking news for you and your OH. Prayers that treatment is successful, and complete, hard though it may be. And may the inevitable not happen. Not too soon, anyway. No good way to word that. I know you understand that so many of us are standing by you in this virtual realm. It’s good that your housing is not as huge a worry as it…[Read more]

@missy — So sorry to hear about your OH.  I wish you both the best in dealing with it.  The last “good” news I had about cancer was that my opposite number, my daughter-in-law’s mother (who started her own life-long war with this disease when her son went through a bout of it in his teens), died of a recurrence of her own cancer — aged 92.

@missy I am very sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you keep up your spirits and strength and that all goes well for your family.Cancer has touched the lives of many of us and I hope you can find the support that I know is out there.

@missy So sorry to hear that.  I hope you and your husband can bear up the best you can.

@Missy best wishes from me also. Cancer can be so cruel, make sure you get all the support you and your husband need. I think @thane16 worded it so beautifully.

do take care of yourself too. Life is so precious. This morning a poem was read (at a funeral) about the dash between dates of birth and death. That dash is our lives, our present. We…[Read more]

@missy

I’m very sorry to hear this. My mum and my dad are also very sorry.  I am passing my dad’s prayers to you as he has asked.

I have heard of this in science, unfortunately, due to a precursor illness called Barrett’s disease which is one earliest form of it? Men get it more than women. Like @Cathannabel says it is necessary that you have…[Read more]

@missy I’m so very sorry to hear that. Cancer is an evil bastard and has no regard, ever, for fairness and justice. I hope that you get the support you need, medically and in other respects too, to get through this.

@pedant

Brilliant Mr P. I thought his reaction was split second. No way I could drop that fast & keep a hair do.  😉

@rorysmith

I think the problem on the web -site were people asking for some happy time? Sometimes removal men who want to take all the furniture. I do not mind it myself. I think furniture is over-rated unless it is my bed.…[Read more]

@missy

Nah,. Every time anyone wants to hide behind those pathetic weasel words as a justification for their prejudice and hatred they will get it with both barrels.

@missy

For Christ’s sake. You’re playing about with this “pretend anger” thing & it’s not working. Alright? It aint. If people want to swear because they do, then that’s none of your business. As long as no-one has a “go” at an actual person. Also (Christ, I feel like I’m teaching grade school) he wasn’t talking to you. Not at all. So, having a…[Read more]